Posts Tagged ‘family’

21
Apr

“Autism Aubservations”

   Posted by: Sandi    in Autism

Sorry. Had to.

This morning in the House O’Quill, it is a good day for the little guy. He asked to be awakened early, so I tried, but he wanted a “few more minutes.” Fortunately, that was easy for both of us, and I granted them.

Then, when he awakened “for real” we had a time of When You Were a Baby and I shared with him some of the stuff we used to do when he was a newly-born Little Bud. That interested him not at all.

What cracked him up totally was when I was telling him about his big brother, Cyclone, watching movies in the middle of the night when Cyclone couldn’t sleep. THAT made Builder giggle and demand repeats of the telling.

Then, he launched himself out of bed and ran to the living room. And we did some of our repetitions. Some fun little things we do around here that involve sound (currently, the city of KIEV is fascinating to him. He just likes the sound) and motion.

And then… His face went slack and he didn’t respond to anything for a couple of minutes. So I did the laundry. I figured he was processing.

Another unusual thing here is his wristwatch.

This is unusual because Builder cannot ABIDE to have things on his body beside the necessary clothing. He has rebelled vigorously when we tried a medical ID bracelet, and so on. But… He loves his wristwatch.

He is very much concerned with time. Constantly so. Having a watch gives him a very instant and accurate idea of what time it is. This is not a digital watch, either. He wanted ANALOG. He goes on serious rebellions against digital clocks on occasion, so now, he always has an analog timepiece and is satisfied.

Strange, how such a small thing brought such peace to his mind and our home. :) Oh, it’s not a permanent peace, but it has alleviated one small stress in his life — the deep desire to do away with digital clocks — and all of us are thankful.

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22
Dec

Looking for Jesus

   Posted by: Sandi    in Faith

It’s three in the morning. “Are you up?” I call to my brother.

“Yes!” he whispers back. Loudly. “Be quiet!”

Even though we slept on the first floor and our parents slept on the second, we had to be quiet. Our little sister needed to sleep in. She always did. Even when we moved to a one-story ranch in later years, my brother and I kept quiet for fear of waking anyone before dawn.

But as little children, we no doubt made noise coming out of our rooms. Our first objective was not, however, to get to the “stockings hung by the chimney with care.” No, our first objective was to find JESUS.

The hunt went on. “Did you check behind the books?”

“Did you look in the planter?” Mom was careful with our Jesus figurine, but she knew her children needed to be challenged.

Our search for Jesus began when we were children and continued all the years we lived at home. Was it intended to be a spiritual lesson when I was barely in kindergarten? I don’t know. But Jesus always came before gifts, and that was what I learned, then. It’s what I teach, today.

“I can’t find him! Maybe Mom took him to her room!”

“Shhh! She’ll hear you!”

The living room was dark, save for the lights on the Christmas tree. My brother or I would plug them in so we could see to search for Baby Jesus. Flashing lights danced on our presents, but we were focused on our search.

As a child, you aren’t usually aware of the financial “obligations” in the “season of giving.” As a child, you don’t have stress over what to buy for whom, and how much to spend this year. Is there enough money to get presents for the children and each other? Do we have to stand in line for an hour for That Particular Scarf? As a child, there is mostly wonder. Wonder and hope that any gift you did manage to buy or make for a family member will be sufficiently ooh’d and aaah’d over. A child can focus on the joy of the celebration.

“Wait…I think she moved the stuff on the mantle! Maybe he’s there!”

“Don’t break anything!!”

I have grown from childhood to adulthood to parenthood. We have had years where our gift to each other was a new house and that was about it. We have had years where we could afford to give generously and ship overnight express! God has blessed us in every circumstance.

But through it all, every Christmas, we celebrate Christ’s birth. Our nativity set is made from olivewood from the Holy Land. Joe and I purchased it together before our first Christmas as husband and wife. It means a great deal to us, of course. And every year when it comes out, I smile and look around the living room, because I’ll be hiding the Baby Jesus on Christmas Eve.

“I found him!”

Did my brother find little Jesus in his manger or did I? The important thing was that we found Christ. As soon as we could, we’d tell our parents who “won.”

In truth, my brother, sister, and I have all found Christ in our lives. And still, the last time we got together for Christmas, back in 2004, Mums still hid the Baby Jesus from her each of her Nativity scenes for us to find.

No matter how old you are, the true reason we celebrate at this time of year is to celebrate the coming of God to the world of men. Because “God so loved the world, that he gave his only begotten son, that whosoever believes in him shall not perish, but shall have everlasting life.”

What does Christmas mean to me? Finding Jesus with fresh joy and the wonder of childhood. May he be the first object of our lives, every morning.

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15
Dec

Too many boxes

   Posted by: Sandi    in Faith

It’s been a busy time, here in the House O’Quill.  We are expecting guests over the Christmas holiday.

Usually, my mother-in-law, The Dynamo, and her husband, The Engineer, join us. And their dog, Abby.  This year, we also invited FurnitureGuy, my brother-in-law.  And of course, it is a joy for my husband to celebrate Christmas with both his siblings, so AvonLady and her son have been invited, too.  And I was told in an email this week that AvonLady’s boyfriend will be joining us.  So, we’re going to have a lot of guests!

Now, since my in-laws have purchased a house down the street for investment purposes, there is a place for all of these guests to sleep.  Spousal Unit has been spending a great deal of time there, getting it ready.  And now, there is a deadline, for it absolutely has to be “habitable” by Christmas Eve!  And, because my in-laws do wish to sleep comfortably, The Dynamo has bought and shipped a few luxurious air-beds with memory foam toppers. And she has funded the purchasing of new sets of bedding, as well (for the House O’Quill is not equipped for so many beds being used simultaneously!).  All of these new things are sitting in my house as the other house is being prepped and painted and cleaned.

Now, I’ve decorated a little here in our house.  I have tried, anyway.  The boys helped. :)  My manger scene has the place of honor on the low bookcase near the door, as it does every year.  But this year, a huge box of “Christmas” is stuck in front of it.  A box that weighs, according to UPS, 73 pounds. It’s a gift from The Dynamo and we cannot open it.  Neither can we move it anywhere, since it is so huge that it appears to be a boulder in the living room.

Right in front of my Nativity Scene.

I realized just now that I have been enormously effected by this.

I have let all these boxes block my view of the joy of Christmas as my view to the Nativity Scene is blocked.  The joy of the birth of my Lord to the world of Men.  The joy of anticipation.  The joy of family.  The hundred small celebrations that I have always enjoyed as this Season progresses.  And it wasn’t due to the busy-ness. It was due to my perspective.

It was very humbling.

So, right after I’ve had my breakfast, I am going to move all this stuff. I don’t know where I’m going to put it, but since I moved my heart and head around, surely I can relocate some enormous boxes in my living room.  Even if it means sticking them in my office.  I will do that to preserve my recreated view of a wonderful moment in time.

And, I will make sure to give thanks for the lesson, every day.  God is so very good.

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